Our heightened individualism means that, not only do we expect perfection in all things, but we expect to produce this perfection ourselves. When we (inevitably) fail, the culture of individualism biases us toward causal explanations that focus on personal rather than universal factors. That is, the culture has established a kind of officially acceptable style of causal explanation, and it is one that encourages the individual to blame himself for failure. And this is just the kind of causal explanation that promotes depression when we are faced with failure.
We are so much in our own heads. Let’s give ourselves a little credit and acknowledge that we need not bear the full responsibility of every single personal failure. No need to be creating these little pockets of self-fulfilling prophecy to fall into.
It’s OK to pass the buck when the universe has a hand in it.