Unlike other negative emotions—anger, sadness, disappointment, even grief—what is so difficult about regret is the feeling that the regrettable state of affairs could have been avoided and that it could have been avoided by you, if only you had chosen differently.
Not surprisingly, when confronted with decisions, we often choose the option that minimizes the chances that we will experience regret.
Clutching regrets close to the chest is an obtrusive, unhealthy, and unhelpful practice.
- Thinking about the outcome won’t change the outcome.
- You can’t change the past, but you can affect the present by staying wholly in it.
Choose wisely. When the decision has been made, let it stay made — don’t let despondency over that which cannot be undone become your undoing.