These days, it’s hard to figure out what kind of romantic choice would warrant attention. Wherever we look, we see almost every imaginable arrangement of intimate relations. Though unorthodox romantic choices are still greeted with opprobrium or much worse in many parts of the world and in some parts of the United States, it seems clear that the general trend is toward ever greater tolerance of romantic diversity. Even on network television—hardly the vanguard of social evolution—there are people who are married, unmarried, remarried, heterosexual and homosexual, childless families and families with lots of kids, all trying each week to make us laugh. Today, all romantic possibilities are on the table; all choices are real. Which is another explosion of freedom, but which is also another set of choices to occupy our attention and fuel our anxieties.
As a twentysomething/liberal/Millennial, this trend has been very obvious to me.
Recognition does not make it any easier to navigate.
There’s a huge pressure for young people to participate.
It’s also really fine not to. “Being single” doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you.
Much the same with job searching: try not to overthink it, but do not settle for less than you’re worth, either.
5 years later and the urgency of those vocals…still so potent.