Worth It

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Don’t let others’ opinions of you define you.  Never do that.  It’s unproductive.

Instead, channel time that would’ve been spent laboring over “whether or not, this or that…” into an energy or activity that will build upon your inherent value.  If you know what your strengths or talents are — put them to use.  Put them to use recreationally.  Put them to use professionally.  Put them to use to help the less fortunate.

Or if you don’t know what areas of life you excel in, get acquainted with trial + error.  The point of much of all this is that it will never be ‘perfect,’ so do make a mess.  Getting out there may well instill a little fear in your rear — no one likes to ‘do it wrong’ or ‘look stupid.’  The payoff, however, is that you also get to feel alive.

Writers write what they know.  I would never really consider myself a “writer” or a “poet” or a “lyricist,” because even though I pen & publish, my work rarely evolves beyond vague, or pointed, autobiographical musing.  I have no qualms with this; though I hope after a solid year’s worth of daily blogging my voice will have grown in stature and reach, it’s not even really why I set out to post once a day.

I’m less concerned with the technical — as I’ve stated before, I never want this website to feel like ‘work’ to manage.
I say this expressly now because…I don’t really know.  An aside felt appropriate in my gut, so I started writing it.
This is perhaps due to how this project has evolved; it unquestionably stands somewhere in the intersection of “personal journal” & “motivational insight.”
Walking that line with an even tone is a challenge.  When my day-to-day is muddled and confused, my writing becomes frustrated and curt.  When positive inspiration strikes, I write from the mountaintop and share what I’ve seen.

Let’s find a point here: my intention is never to hand down edicts from on high.  When these entries read off as, “This is what you should do.  This is a recipe for success.  This will lead to fulfillment & actualization.”, it’s just as much me talking to myself as it is to my audience.  And I remain grateful and humbled for reminders when Positive Self-Talk takes a turn for The Negative — because that is not why you, nor I, am here.

I’ve found it’s way easier to not care what other people think of you (or anything, for that matter – #ProfoundlySelfCentered much?) when you’re constantly fucked up, or looking to be.

So in sobriety, it can be an arduous process to find that expanse of mental real estate again.  Kind of like separating the yolk from the white or the wheat from the chaff, it takes concentration and control to walk away with the richest substance.

Because what was once standard fare for you as a User might have a less enjoyable takeaway, in a lifestyle that has consciously chosen to move on.
BUT, again: the only way to know is to try.  Failing is OK and encouraged, so long as a lesson can be found within, and defeat is not admitted.  Don’t give Old Ways the power by saying, “This is too difficult.  I don’t understand and I can’t deal.”

Yes, you can.  By being here, and sober, you have already conquered a struggle.

If nothing else, your own sound existence is a beacon for others — and for yourself.
Follow it.


More ’70s-sampled soul goodness.  Cooler than a polar bear’s toenails.


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