The past 24 hours have gone something like:
“Hey Tom, it’s Emily – check out these apartment listings that meet all of our qualifications for us to share a place as roommates”
“So we can tour that one you really like, can you meet at lunch today?”
“Yeah this building offers a great deal, let’s fill out the credit check application”
“I hope we passed the credit check, I think I love that spot…”
“So we will sign the lease within 7 days…how does next weekend sound to move in?”
For maybe the past month or two she and I had been talking about looking for a flat to share again, having had such a great experience when I first moved to Stamford & rented a room in the place she was staying that she found on CraigsList. It was kind of a drag when that lease was up and it made sense for us to find respective places that fit our personal needs a bit more. Having been such close friends for so many years, we’ve long since grown past the need for passive-aggressive roommate jabs and simply know each other’s lifestyle traits so well that we intuitively smooth the rough edges so that our habitation practices fit together like 2 puzzle pieces.
So I love it! I just…wasn’t expecting that the turnaround time once we found a fitting listing would be literally less than 24 hours. This will very much shift my gears for my free time over the coming week…and that’s OK. Moving is a big process, but in truth I have been migrating on a nearly biannual basis, for the past 5 years or so…it phases me much less now. Sometimes, in order to truly capitalize on a serious deal that comes along in life, you have to make split-second decision without any of the time you would like to think about how it will make you feel, what implications it will carry, and so on.
That can be very difficult for some people, in recovery from substance abuse or no. Meditation, mindfulness, focused breathing, centering oneself to find zen…all useful tools in processing what can feel like overwhelming choices or situations. Old Me would probably find some reason to let alcohol & anger cloud my thoughts: “Now I have to spend all week packing, I wasn’t planning for this, I’m too tired to start working on it, I need a drink.”
Circumstances such as these are great opportunities to share (or re-share, or re-re-share) one of my favorite Bruce Lee quotes:
“Be water, my friend.”
Be water. Move not as a force to be stopped by an obstacle, but rather a source that has the capabilities to flow around it.